Picture this: you’re in a beautiful room full of people at the top of their game doing what you would love to be doing.
Maybe they are all artists, or realtors, attorneys, authors, pilots, pole vaulters, or… you get the idea.
How would you feel? 🤔
Would you feel inspired with ideas and excited about all the different ways your life could change and how amazing it would be? 🎉
Or, would you feel down in the dumps because you’re too old, you’re ship has already passed, you’re life won’t measure up to theirs or > insert sad feeling here? 😢
The second option sounds pretty pathetic, huh? And guess what? That’s where most people go when they see someone doing what they want to do.
The fact is, we’ve all been there.
Inspiration may last for a split second, then our minds race with questions like “why haven’t I made it like they have already? What have I been doing with my life? I shouldn’t even bother because it’s too late.”
And this is where I’ll let you know something – with piles of love in my heart:
Those thoughts aren’t true. They are knee-jerk reactions your small-self wants you to believe because if you do, then you’ll stay small.
So, how do you get out of the vicious loop of jealousy and stay inspired when you feel anything but?
I’m glad you asked! 😉 Here are my best ways to jump the jealousy ship and keep the inspiration flowing.
5 Ways to Stay Inspired instead of Envious
1. Look at what they are doing as possibilities
What if the reason you were dropped into that room of people that are doing what you’d love to do, saw that person online, read about that person, or sat next to them on the airplane – what if the reason you were divinely placed in that situation was to show you that it’s possible?
Out of divine appointment you were given a real life in the flesh example of possibility for you. It wasn’t something meant to knock you down, but something mean to lift you up!
2. Keep your blinders on
When Oprah was grinding to make her talk show rise above the countless others on air, her team would bring her examples of what the other shows were doing, only she didn’t want to see it. Instead, she’d tell her team to keep their blinders on and stick to what’s true for them.
Lady O knows how to make shit happen, so she might be one to take some advice from. Take the dip of inspiration from those you see around you doing what you would love to do, then put your blinders on and stay focused on your work. It will look and feel different than anyone else’s because it’s unique to you.
3. Tell your inner toddler to wait…
The small self loves to emulate a demanding toddler as it yells while kicking and screaming – – I WANT IT NOW! It takes a bit of time to practice being the new version of ourselves we want to be, yet we want the manifested result NOW.
Until we are the masters of our emotions and thoughts, NOW just isn’t going to happen. We have to work on and change our inner thinking and feeling before our outer world can show up in a new way.
Quiet that inner toddler of yours and stay committed to who you want to become.
4. Say in your lane
When we linger too long in what others are doing, it may veer us over into the slippery world of envy. When you start to slip, veer back into your lane. What is it you want your future to look like? Make it personal to you. What feels good to ponder? Milk that as much as you can to get your momentum going in the direction of fulfilling your dreams. This is your life, so make it personal to you. Feel it in your body and imagine it’s already happened. Give your work your undivided attention.
5. Differentiate what you Know from what you think
Our inner Knowing – that wise sage that lives within you – is our higher self leading us to our most authentic life. Whereas our thinking mind – our small self – will attempt to derail us at every turn. It’s been informed by the opinions of others and can’t see anything different from the past.
Knowing the difference in what voice is driving our decisions is a huge part in our overall happiness. (It was your Knowing that lead you to that room full of inspiration in the first place!)
How can you tell the difference between what you Know and what you think❓❓
I’ve made a quick little exercise (takes two minutes!) for you to tell.
Grab a piece of paper or use notes in your phone. ✍️
➡️ On the top write out what you want to get clear on (relationship, job, etc.) Draw a line down the piece of paper.
➡️ On one side write: what I think (for you small thinking), on one side write: what I Know (for your Knowing).
➡️ Under the think column, write down everything you think about that situation (the thoughts you’ve been playing on repeat.)
➡️ Once that side is done, take 1-3 deep breaths, place your hand on your heart and say aloud: “what I Know is.” Let your answers flow without filtering what comes up. Don’t analyze it, keep writing and saying what I Know is..
➡️ Compare sides and see if reading one side vs. the other feels different. Practice this with anything that seems uncertain to you, or anything you may be fearful of doing / changing.
Soon enough you’ll be able to decipher what you Know and what you think. Total game changer! 🙌
Through this messy, complicated, beautiful life we’ve been given, we are absolutely meant to thrive, we were born to create, and life is supposed to be a fun adventure. And 100% above all else, life gives us exactly what we put into it.
I’m rooting for you and would love to hear what or who you’ve been inspired by lately and what you’re going to do about it. 🙂
Leave a comment here, or send me an email. I read every single word.
All my best and with lots of love, 💗