I was talking with another mom yesterday. She was telling me the to-be-expected chaos that ensues with 4 kids under 7 years old in quarantine. (God bless her.)
She’s super mom and wants to do the best by her kids, and it’s driving her a little crazy.
That’s when I suggested to her to start using a mantra that I’ve been living by at my house while under quarantine with 4 kids:
In a world where we are praised for pushing ourselves to exhaustion, we can use this reprieve to upgrade our operating system and allow our lives to be easier.
With ease, comes more joy. They ride on the same frequency.
Now, don’t confuse this with apathy. Living by the mantra “DOES THIS MAKE MY LIFE EASIER?” doesn’t mean you don’t care, in fact, it’s quiet the opposite. IT MEANS YOU CARE ABOUT WHAT TRULY MATTERS. Your happiness and the happiness of those around you.
For example, there are things I really don’t enjoy doing. Anything involving spreadsheets, data keeping, plugging in numbers into my computer – I’d rather pick at a scab. (Sorry, it’s true.)
But using the mantra DOES THIS MAKE MY LIFE EASIER? Puts me in a different frame of mind. Does it make my life easier to pay my bills? Actually, it does. That little yes takes me a long way. Far enough to sit in my seat and do the work.
DOES THIS MAKE MY LIFE EASIER is a great way to frame a situation before picking a fight, nagging a kid, or getting mad at your husband for not cleaning his breakfast dishes.
Create a Wedge Between YOU and Your Thoughts
By saying the mantra DOES THIS MAKE MY LIFE EASIER, you create a wedge between you and your thoughts.
It’s that wedge – that buffer in your mind, where you can notice the ways you may be making life more difficult than it needs to be.
You may be inspired to show a little grace and wash the dishes yourself, or you may decide to LET IT GO.
Either way – it’s easier on you. And your nervous system will thank you for not getting all worked up.
There will always be things that annoy us, that seem too hard to do, or frustrate us, or cause us to compare ourselves to other people and what we perceive they are doing in the world, but the truth is, what really matters is the mind we keep.
How you allow your thoughts to reign over your life determines the quality of life you live.
The universe we claim inside our own bodies is what we have control over – – and nothing else.
DOES THIS MAKE MY LIFE EASIER can cut the chords of expectation, disappointment and the frantic grip of stress. It’s like pressing a reset button to a life that we were holding onto by the coattails.
At a time when we have the space to recreate how we want our life to be post quarantine, this could really be a great opportunity to re-prioritize our own ease and well-being.
So, give it a shot. Try out the mantra: DOES THIS MAKE MY LIFE EASIER on anything and everything that causes your mind stress and see if it gives you the space you need to relax, let go, or move into action on things that are important to you.
I’d love to hear how it goes for you, or if you have something that helps you reframe stress. I love getting your emails in my inbox or reading your comments on social media or on the website. They always make my life easier and mean so much to me. 🙂
Tomorrow is our virtual gathering via ZOOM and you are invited. This month we are talking about growing good vibes in our lives. I’d love to see you there! If you can’t make it, no worries, I can email you the recording if you register.
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Until tomorrow, let your life be easier. xo
Lots of love,